Ahwatukee Foothills Newspaper
February 26, 2009
Our close friends just got married and we have been together for years but are still not married. Most other adults my age already have their college degree and I still don't. My friend already has kids and I am nowhere close to even having kids.
Sound familiar? We all end up comparing ourselves to those around us at least one time or another throughout our lives. As we compare, we degrade ourselves as to why we are not in their position. Why would we compare ourselves to other people and think that we are behind?
Each and every person has their own path that they have to walk. Some people will get married at a certain age, while others may get married later on in life. Kids these days get their college degrees at all different age levels. There is no certain age that if you do not get married by you are considered to be behind, or if you don't get your college degree by a certain date you are not "cool" anymore.
Each person goes through each stage of life on their own terms, according to their own life agenda. There is no wrong or right way to walk your path, only minor detours that we sometimes may take.
If you are anything like me, you start comparing yourself to other people, wondering why they are at a certain stage in their life while you still feel stuck in the one you're in when it comes to your life. That is something we always seem to try and rush when we really shouldn't.
Why do we try and rush ourselves to get to the next stage in life to keep up with everyone else? One day we will have no more experiences to go through anymore, and we'll look back one day and miss the journey we were traveling on to get to the next stage.
Why rush life when it is so short to begin with? Why not take our time and enjoy the years we are not keeping up with other people, because we are content trying to just keep up with ourselves?
Why compare and put that much added pressure on ourselves? There is no reason to, however, we still do it all the time.
Enjoy each journey and stage of life. Some stages might be better and a lot more fun than others, but it is still a stage, a period of time, an experience that belongs to us and us only. What shapes who we are as people today are the experiences we go through and have gone through throughout our life.
Enjoy the time it takes, don't rush the ride but enjoy the journey. Be content with the time it takes for you to get to the next stage in life. Don't worry about what stage your neighbor is in, because I guarantee they are thinking the same thing about you, and wondering how you are at the stage you're at in life and they're not.
February 26, 2009
Our close friends just got married and we have been together for years but are still not married. Most other adults my age already have their college degree and I still don't. My friend already has kids and I am nowhere close to even having kids.
Sound familiar? We all end up comparing ourselves to those around us at least one time or another throughout our lives. As we compare, we degrade ourselves as to why we are not in their position. Why would we compare ourselves to other people and think that we are behind?
Each and every person has their own path that they have to walk. Some people will get married at a certain age, while others may get married later on in life. Kids these days get their college degrees at all different age levels. There is no certain age that if you do not get married by you are considered to be behind, or if you don't get your college degree by a certain date you are not "cool" anymore.
Each person goes through each stage of life on their own terms, according to their own life agenda. There is no wrong or right way to walk your path, only minor detours that we sometimes may take.
If you are anything like me, you start comparing yourself to other people, wondering why they are at a certain stage in their life while you still feel stuck in the one you're in when it comes to your life. That is something we always seem to try and rush when we really shouldn't.
Why do we try and rush ourselves to get to the next stage in life to keep up with everyone else? One day we will have no more experiences to go through anymore, and we'll look back one day and miss the journey we were traveling on to get to the next stage.
Why rush life when it is so short to begin with? Why not take our time and enjoy the years we are not keeping up with other people, because we are content trying to just keep up with ourselves?
Why compare and put that much added pressure on ourselves? There is no reason to, however, we still do it all the time.
Enjoy each journey and stage of life. Some stages might be better and a lot more fun than others, but it is still a stage, a period of time, an experience that belongs to us and us only. What shapes who we are as people today are the experiences we go through and have gone through throughout our life.
Enjoy the time it takes, don't rush the ride but enjoy the journey. Be content with the time it takes for you to get to the next stage in life. Don't worry about what stage your neighbor is in, because I guarantee they are thinking the same thing about you, and wondering how you are at the stage you're at in life and they're not.
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